“Let the things that enter your life wake you up” – Pema Chondron
Our life’s work is to wake up to consciousness… is it not? Choosing to deal in reality is so very hard and as a culture we’ve set up a lot of ways to “escape.”
I can escape into television, drinking, drugs, sex, drama, music, books… and on many occasions I have, and certainly all of the above seems much more appealing than having to muck around in my own “stuff” and look at my life as a series of events that are called there as my teachers.
My Dad used to say that “Pain builds character… for more pain” and he’d always laugh when he said it, but truthfully now, I can see why he would say it. It’s adversity that shapes us, and pain that moulds or inspires our greatest human potential. Many people don’t even know what they are really made of until they actually let themselves “feel” instead of numbing the emotions with something to escape into… out of the pain.
The magic key to being able to actually stay awake is to be able to have sympathy for everything and everyone that comes along – even yourself. You might as well let it in because it’s going to stick around until you learn the lesson it’s offering anyways. Resistance is kind of futile.
Sympathy: is a social affinity in which one person stands with another person, closely understanding his or her feelings. Also known as empathic concern, it is the feeling of compassion or concern for another, the wish to see them better off or happier. Although empathy and sympathy are often used interchangeably, a subtle variation in ordinary usage can be detected. To empathize is to respond to another’s perceived emotional state by experiencing feelings of a similar sort. Sympathy not only includes empathizing, but also entails having a positive regard or a non-fleeting concern for the other person.
In common usage, sympathy is usually making known one’s understanding of another’s unhappiness or suffering, especially when it is grief. Sympathy can also refer to being aware of other (positive) emotions as well. In a broader sense, it can refer to the sharing of political or ideological sentiments, such as in the phrase “a communist sympathizer”. The word derives from the Greek συμπάθεια (sympatheia), from σύν (syn) “together” and πάθος (pathos) “passion”, in this case “suffering” (from πάσχω – pascho, “to be affected by, to suffer”).
You can divorce, quite your job, leave a friendship behind, only go where people praise you and manipulate your world into giving you what you want but those old demons will always come back…
They always come back.
They come back until you befriend them, and sit with them, and serve them tea and fricking crumpets. I hate those demons.
I love those demons.