The Revelation Project Part V: Tami Silver

Tami Silver had so much fun at the photo shoot, her enthusiasm was infectious.  Dancing, singing, and laughing pretty much sums up the shoot and we got some great candid’s that just captured her joy, and her appreciation of the moment. There is just something to be said for all that attention – I’m pretty sure it’s akin to watering a plant that’ *parched*.

Having now photographed several women, I am always so moved by how each and every woman has her own unique essence that just comes out in the photographs.  “She” ( any woman)  can show up here any number of ways: shy, quiet, nervous, anxious, excited, spastic, etc and no matter what…. settle into herself and “get it done” – I simply marvel at all of us… I really do. We are just an AMAZING species!  Tami Silver- My favorite thing about you is your smile. It’s like a cardiac defibrillatorbang! .

The following questions were posed and the following was Tami’s response ( PS: We’ve changed up the questions in the next interview to keep it fresh 🙂

MR: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?

TS: I was really nervous-I have never been comfortable in front of the camera-I can be laughing and having fun, then someone takes out a camera and I instantly feel self-conscious and my smile feels fake and wooden.  I rarely like photos of myself-I can probably count on one hand the number of photos I like of myself-and they are mostly baby pictures.  I know Robyn well and I knew she would make it fun-but I did not expect to like the photos-I was prepared to be embarrassed, uncomfortable and disappointed.


MR: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?

TS: The moment I got to there I felt relaxed-Robyn and Monica are such real individuals; it made me feel at ease.  Monica sat me down and put make up on me (I rarely wear makeup)-she had such a gentle touch-it was so relaxing and it was fun to be the center of attention, I felt very pampered.  You can really feel the great report, friendship and professional working relationship between Robyn and Monica; they made me feel like I was a part of something special, they were there to get me in my best light-they made wonderful suggestions for what to wear, ways to position myself-and they played great music, that really loosened me up.


MR: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?

TS: Pretty. Darn. Nervous.

MR: Three words for after?

TS: Ready for anything

MR: Three words for when you saw the results

TS: Is that me?


MR: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience?  What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?

TS: I needed to leave to go to an appointment and I was bummed-I wanted to stay-I was having so much fun-I felt like a rock star.  The time flew by-I never felt judged by Robyn or Monica-I felt beautiful and happy.

MR: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?

TS: I was at a friend’s house when Robyn told me they were up-I was instantly nervous-I wanted to be alone with them for a while-just get used to seeing them-it took a few days, I would look at them whenever I had a moment to myself-I needed to get used to seeing myself.  Now I show them to anybody and everybody.


MR: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?

TS: Everyone has loved them-my mom wants to order a bunch-she has wanted me to do something like this for a while.  My sisters want to be next-but they live in California.  It has been very flattering to get so many compliments.

MR: Did you feel beautiful during the shoot? Why? Why not?

TS: Yes I did-Robyn and Monica were very complimentary and very genuine-they really put me at ease-they are both so naturally beautiful, inside and out-it was easy to feel beautiful in their presence.


MR: Did you feel empowered? Why?  Why not?

TS: Yes I felt very empowered, it was liberating. To be the center of attention is a powerful feeling, not in a self-involved way, but just to celebrate you-how often do we get a chance to do that?

MR: Since the shoot happened almost a month ago now can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience?  Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?

TS: Yes, I feel a lot more comfortable around a camera now-I used to view the camera as almost an enemy, out to get me-not everyone is going to capture me as beautifully at Robyn and Monica, but I feel like a have a more realistic idea of what I really look like-and I am happy with me.  I feel more comfortable in my own skin, a have found a new sense of confidence in myself.


MR: Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? Why?

TS: Yes, it was one of the high lights in my life-to get some photographs of myself that I like-I feel like we, as woman spend so much time encouraging other people–telling them how beautiful and wonderful they are-it was nice to feel like I had permission to do something special just for me.

MR: Do you think it’s relevant for other women?  Why?

TS: I would like to convince every woman I know to do this.  To celebrate who you are right now-it is a real gift to give yourself. We all should celebrate who we are at any age.  I feel so lucky to have done this.  All too often we think about something like this, and say, well, if I lose 5 pounds, or when I get my hair done, etc-just do it now-embrace who you are right now.


MR: How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? As gifts?

TS: I would like to have some prints made for myself-and my family wants some-I know I cherish these images for the rest of my life.

MR: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?

TS: Fantastic experience, I think this Revelation Project that Robyn and Monica have started is a brilliant idea-something that is life changing in a positive way for anyone that experiences it.  I hope this continues to grow and that more women will take the time to celebrate their beauty.  The thing that has been the most striking about all the photos of the women who have been photographed for this project is what you see in their eyes-incredible.


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A Revelation: Make-UP

Poor Jenny Graham, she tried to tell me about a million times how great bareMinerals was but at the time she opened her wildly successful business I was deep into the childerness… a place where she will wander this spring.

Bare Escentuals is my favorite makeup ever since she gave me my sample bag! ( I love you Jenny!) There are  so many reasons to love it, and you can read a few of them here, but I especially love it because it makes my skin look flawless (an illusion) and radient (also an illusion.)

So far the women who have taken part in the Revelation Project (eleven women with four additional bookings!) have enjoyed having their make-up done with it, and have simply loved the results they’ve seen in the photos! PS: I love doing make-up (I think I’m a frustrated make-up artist).

I’ve not taken “before” and after shots of  women mostly because I don’t want the experience to highlight “glamour” and “make-up” but instead allow the posts of photos themselves to speak for themselves to the audience of friends who know that beautiful creature in the picture and what she looks like everyday. Now they get to see an “enhanced” version of her which is natural, soft and lovely.

For anyone who would like to experience a real treat experimenting with makeup and finding some natural shades that enhance your own features you should plan on making an appointment with one of the talented and lovely ladies at the Apothecary on broadway in Newport RI.

Please say the Revelation Project sent you!  xoxoxoxo

VOILA!

 

 

 

 

The Revelation Project Part IV: Bethany Harvey Stewart

To know her is to adore her. Bethany Harvey Stewart is one of the most unassuming women I have ever met.  I have known Bethany for a few years now and our friendship has deepened over time with the advent of children, Facebook, and now, photography.  I really enjoyed photographing Bethany for so many reasons….most of all because I witnessed that *moment* when she finally just “let go” and gave herself permission to show up in the photographs….and once she did she literally shone like a prism.  She makes me remember that we are in fact spiritual beings- our body is our vessel, and our eyes the windows to our soul.

1) What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot ( before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?

When Robyn and Monica first asked me, my first reaction was that it would be fun.  But, after I thought about it some more I was terrified.  I was very nervous, not so much about taking the photos, but about other people seeing them.  I was worried that people might think I was a narcissist for having pictures taken of myself, when in reality my self esteem was at a very low point.  An interesting thing happened on the drive over, though.  I really felt exhilarated by the idea of doing something that scared me.  That hadn’t happened in a while!  As far as what I was expecting,   I know that you both are wonderful photographers, but you can only do so much with a subject!  I have never enjoyed posed photos of myself….aside from my wedding photos and pictures of my pregnant belly. So, I was not confident…in me, not in you!

2) How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process? Can you tell me if there was a point in which you finally “surrendered” to the shoot and do you remember when, and what made it happen?

I loved that the pictures were being taken at your home and on regular furniture, not with traditional photography props and and backdrops. That put me at ease somewhat.  You and Robyn have such a good time together, and you both kept me laughing.  I don’t know if I ever really “let go” completely, but you were both good at distracting me and eliciting natural smiles and expressions.

3) Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot.

Exhilarated, terrified, unworthy

4) 3 words for after

Exhilarated, optimistic, empowered

5) Three words for when you saw the results

Thrilled, surprised, flattered

6) After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience?  What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?

I was laughing all night about some of the antics you two went through to get me loosened up!  I was really nervous about having the pictures posted on facebook for the world to see.

7) When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?

I wasn’t sure I was really looking at me!

Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?

I got so many wonderful comments from friends and family (mostly women).  I think most of them understood the motivation behind the photo shoot. So many of us stop thinking of ourselves as beautiful individuals once we take that leap to motherhood.   Many women told me how brave they thought I was.

9) Did you feel beautiful during the shoot? why? why not?

Ummm, I was still feeling pretty unworthy during the shoot.  When you showed me a couple of the shots on your camera mid way through, I felt a little more confident.

10) Did you feel empowered? why?  Why not?

That feeling didn’t really hit me until after the shoot.  I was so proud that I went through with it. It was so outside of my comfort zone…and I hadn’t been there in quite some time. That felt amazing.

11) Since the shoot happened almost two weeks ago now can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience?  Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?

Since participating in the revelation project, the truth that has come to light for me is that sometime during the last five years, since I quit my job to be with my two children full time, I ceased to really see myself as an individual.  I always put my needs last, even denied that I might have needs outside of caring for my family.  Now many might say that that is what being a parent is all about.  Being a parent requires always considering the needs of one’s children.  I don’t argue with that.   The question I have come to ask myself is, isn’t there a way to fulfill my own needs without sacrificing the needs of those I love? Wouldn’t taking care of myself and truly being happy and fulfilled,  wouldn’t that in fact be the best gift to (and example to set for) my girls?   Seeing those pictures of me (not of me and my kids, or even of me and my husband but of JUST ME) woke something up inside of me that had been buried far too long.  I am excited to get to know myself again and I insist on making my own happiness a priority.  The reality is, if I am not truly happy, I am not really capable of offering by best self to others either.  We all deserve more.

12) Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? why?

Yes!  I knew that I had been feeling low, but I didn’t quite realize how badly I had been perceiving myself until looking in hindsight after this experience.  It was an amazing feeling looking at a beautiful, confident woman and realizing I AM HER.  WHOA. Who knew?

13) Do you think it’s relevant for other women?  why?

Yes!  I have been encouraging everyone to try this.  It’s hard to explain, but it’s like stepping outside of yourself and gaining a new and better perspective – on YOU.  I am thinking more than I have in a long time about who I am as an individual and what I need to be happy and fulfilled.  I want to make that woman in the photos proud!

14) How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? as gifts?

Any of the above.  I am so happy to have them for my girls, too.

15) If you could sum up the experience what would you say?

I would say that this experience is an incredible gift you can give to yourself.

The Revelation Project Part III: Juli Mancini

Juli Mancini is one of the most creative, articulate, and generous people I know. Juli’s beauty is wild and untamed, and the clarity in her eyes coupled with her open and direct communication style just enhances it.  She’s always in touch with where she is at emotionally, and loves connecting with people at the heart level.  Having studied and worked on the West Coast she’s carried that warmth to New England and has spread it’s rays to all who have had the pleasure of meeting her. Mother of two, artist, photographer, writer, entrepreneur, the photographs and interview can tell you the rest.

MR: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?

juli: I am usually the one behind the lens so the idea of actually having timeless documentation of beautiful photos of myself was refreshing.  I didn’t know exactly what to expect but love productions and female gatherings of any kind so my spirits were lifted before I walked through the door.

MR: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?

juli: For me personally, being photographed by women, disengages a sensor that might otherwise be present.  This changes the finished product as a result creating a softer, truer and essential depiction.


MR: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?

juli: Thrilled, hopeful, that indescribable Christmas morning feeling.

MR:  Three words for after ?

juli: Anticipation, empowered, beautiful

MR: Three words for when you saw the results

Juli: Disbelief, elation, lifted

MR: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience?  What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?

juli: I thought, what a brilliant idea!  If every woman considered this a necessity instead of a luxury, the world would be a different place.

MR: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?

juli: Pure love of the photographs but also of the many gifts presented in these photos.  I was reintroduced to myself through a photograph.  I also experienced a profound bond with and respect for Robyn and Monica.


MR: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?

juli: The most common remark was that my essence was captured in the photos. Others commented on how beautiful I am and how gifted Robyn and Monica are.

MR: Did you feel beautiful during the shoot? why? why not?

juli: Yes…well I took the opportunity to pull out my Anthropologie clothing and my Pamela Tuohy Jewelry which I save for special occasions.  Monica helped with hair and make-up which has not been a priority in my daily life for some time and all eyes and lenses were on me.  How marvelous!

MR: Did you feel empowered? why?  Why not?

juli: Absolutely…because I felt worthy.


MR: Since the shoot happened almost two weeks ago now can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience?  Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?

juli: Yes. As a mom going through a separation, it’s easy to put my needs last in a long line of to do lists while feeling worn down.  These photos reminded me that I am already the person that I want to become.  She’s in there and we are now getting reacquainted.  Having a love affair actually!

MR:  Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? why?

juli: I do…because, like many other women, I have lost my way on this path in life.  I have replaced my needs with those of family and lost myself along the way. I needed a reminder and these images presented just that.  They are a reminder of my exuberance, vitality and passion.  It conveys beautifully.  You can see it in the eyes.

MR: Do you think it’s relevant for other women?  why?

juli: I think if a woman is open to the many gifts inherent in this project, then yes.  A woman who values herself and this process enough will make the investment…that is the woman who will experience lasting change as a result.


MR:  How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? as gifts?

juli: As a visual person, I only need to close my eyes to review them which is where they have made the most impact.  I may use them to promote my business ventures down the road.  When I move into a place which I can call my own, I will brand the walls with the photos, you know, proudly mark my territory.  I will enjoy that!

MR: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?

Juli: This experience was illuminating. The concept is brilliant and Robyn and Monica approach the project with such passion and intent.  For them, it’s not just about turning a job, it’s about pursuit of deeper meaning in self, partner and subject.  That intent makes the project work and work well.  You see it in the photos and I felt it during the shoot.  We all connected with compassion, hope and excitement for what could be and for what gems may be hidden. I will be forever grateful for the Revelation Project and these talented women with the vision to unearth our wildness and essence.