I spent my night last night re-reading the many love letters my Father sent to my Mother while he was in Vietnam. It’s so wonderfully bazaar to have access to those- and that time period in their lives. I am so grateful my Dad wrote them… so grateful my Mom kept them, and so blessed to have been able to read them in order to learn more about who he was- being that I was only Twenty when he died … i just, never really got the chance- you know?
Coincidentally (no such thing), I was at my old house yesterday with Mr. Goodbar and a friend for a few hours getting the third floor emptied. Although it sold in November the new owners are from “away” and won’t be here till summer so have allowed me to have this time to try to sell, move, give… all the “stuff” i’ve accumulated over the past ten years of my marriage and life.
The hardest part of moving (second of course to the sheer amount of SH*T you realize you’ve collected) is going through the “memorabilia” and deciding what to part with. Children’s drawings and art projects, old cards and letters, books and journals…and then, well- what about the memories of our life together? The cards between us, tokens from our wedding… the small clutch, the dress…. what do i do with those?
I ask, because here i am… an adult now, finally understanding through the tangibles of the past just who my father was, and how he and my mother built a life together. I think about my children- will they appreciate some of these things? Will it help or hurt? There was more too of course… old yearbooks, awards, special tokens or letters from my past, from my own mother…
I think what I’ve decided to do is to keep a few sentimental things that help tell the story of my past a bit…. I think my daughter especially might enjoy seeing, touching, looking at things that represent an era, a life…. I have a trunk, and inside I’ll package these things for her to someday go through if she’d like… things she can choose to have, or leave behind. It seems, after reading the letters from my Dad that he was not the only sentimental fool in our family….
it’s interesting the insights that these treasures from the past can bring.