The Revelation Project Part V: Tami Silver

Tami Silver had so much fun at the photo shoot, her enthusiasm was infectious.  Dancing, singing, and laughing pretty much sums up the shoot and we got some great candid’s that just captured her joy, and her appreciation of the moment. There is just something to be said for all that attention – I’m pretty sure it’s akin to watering a plant that’ *parched*.

Having now photographed several women, I am always so moved by how each and every woman has her own unique essence that just comes out in the photographs.  “She” ( any woman)  can show up here any number of ways: shy, quiet, nervous, anxious, excited, spastic, etc and no matter what…. settle into herself and “get it done” – I simply marvel at all of us… I really do. We are just an AMAZING species!  Tami Silver- My favorite thing about you is your smile. It’s like a cardiac defibrillatorbang! .

The following questions were posed and the following was Tami’s response ( PS: We’ve changed up the questions in the next interview to keep it fresh 🙂

MR: What did you think about the approach of the upcoming photo shoot (before you got there) and what were the results you were expecting?

TS: I was really nervous-I have never been comfortable in front of the camera-I can be laughing and having fun, then someone takes out a camera and I instantly feel self-conscious and my smile feels fake and wooden.  I rarely like photos of myself-I can probably count on one hand the number of photos I like of myself-and they are mostly baby pictures.  I know Robyn well and I knew she would make it fun-but I did not expect to like the photos-I was prepared to be embarrassed, uncomfortable and disappointed.

MR: How did you feel during the shoot and was there anything in particular that made you feel more or less relaxed or open to the process?

TS: The moment I got to there I felt relaxed-Robyn and Monica are such real individuals; it made me feel at ease.  Monica sat me down and put make up on me (I rarely wear makeup)-she had such a gentle touch-it was so relaxing and it was fun to be the center of attention, I felt very pampered.  You can really feel the great report, friendship and professional working relationship between Robyn and Monica; they made me feel like I was a part of something special, they were there to get me in my best light-they made wonderful suggestions for what to wear, ways to position myself-and they played great music, that really loosened me up.

MR: Can you describe in three words the way you felt before we shot?

TS: Pretty. Darn. Nervous.

MR: Three words for after?

TS: Ready for anything

MR: Three words for when you saw the results

TS: Is that me?

MR: After you left but before you saw the results – did you have any thoughts about the experience?  What were some of the things you thought about on the drive home?

TS: I needed to leave to go to an appointment and I was bummed-I wanted to stay-I was having so much fun-I felt like a rock star.  The time flew by-I never felt judged by Robyn or Monica-I felt beautiful and happy.

MR: When you saw the results can you tell me your first impression?

TS: I was at a friend’s house when Robyn told me they were up-I was instantly nervous-I wanted to be alone with them for a while-just get used to seeing them-it took a few days, I would look at them whenever I had a moment to myself-I needed to get used to seeing myself.  Now I show them to anybody and everybody.

MR: Can you talk about the feedback you received from those who saw your photographs?

TS: Everyone has loved them-my mom wants to order a bunch-she has wanted me to do something like this for a while.  My sisters want to be next-but they live in California.  It has been very flattering to get so many compliments.

MR: Did you feel beautiful during the shoot? Why? Why not?

TS: Yes I did-Robyn and Monica were very complimentary and very genuine-they really put me at ease-they are both so naturally beautiful, inside and out-it was easy to feel beautiful in their presence.

MR: Did you feel empowered? Why?  Why not?

TS: Yes I felt very empowered, it was liberating. To be the center of attention is a powerful feeling, not in a self-involved way, but just to celebrate you-how often do we get a chance to do that?

MR: Since the shoot happened almost a month ago now can you talk about the lasting impact of the experience?  Has it altered the way you view yourself or your surroundings?

TS: Yes, I feel a lot more comfortable around a camera now-I used to view the camera as almost an enemy, out to get me-not everyone is going to capture me as beautifully at Robyn and Monica, but I feel like a have a more realistic idea of what I really look like-and I am happy with me.  I feel more comfortable in my own skin, a have found a new sense of confidence in myself.

MR: Do you think this was an important/valuable experience for yourself? Why?

TS: Yes, it was one of the high lights in my life-to get some photographs of myself that I like-I feel like we, as woman spend so much time encouraging other people–telling them how beautiful and wonderful they are-it was nice to feel like I had permission to do something special just for me.

MR: Do you think it’s relevant for other women?  Why?

TS: I would like to convince every woman I know to do this.  To celebrate who you are right now-it is a real gift to give yourself. We all should celebrate who we are at any age.  I feel so lucky to have done this.  All too often we think about something like this, and say, well, if I lose 5 pounds, or when I get my hair done, etc-just do it now-embrace who you are right now.

MR: How would you use the photos moving forward? Professionally? Personally? As gifts?

TS: I would like to have some prints made for myself-and my family wants some-I know I cherish these images for the rest of my life.

MR: If you could sum up the experience what would you say?

TS: Fantastic experience, I think this Revelation Project that Robyn and Monica have started is a brilliant idea-something that is life changing in a positive way for anyone that experiences it.  I hope this continues to grow and that more women will take the time to celebrate their beauty.  The thing that has been the most striking about all the photos of the women who have been photographed for this project is what you see in their eyes-incredible.


The Revelation Project: Part I

It’s pretty easy for us women to forget who we are or wanted to be after years of care taking,  raising a family, or just plain years later.

For many of us – it’s not that our husbands or boyfriends don’t make us feel beautiful or worthy of worship but that we don’t quite feel the part ourselves. Then there are those of us who have never really seen the inherent beauty of our selves for who we are and the expressions and attributes that are uniquely ours- making us each individually and uniquely beautiful. We sometimes get lost along the way to the land of low self esteem, resignation, cynicism, and self criticism ( I visit this land way too often).

My neighbor Robyn Ivy is an incredibly accomplished photographer who like many of us on the outside- look like we have it all handled.   Mother of two, recently divorced, smart, talented, lovely, insightful and pee your pants funny had just recently hit that wall we all eventually press our nose against.  The wall of : STUCK, UGLY, UNATTRACTIVE, OVERWHELMED, OUT of SHAPE, and just plain SICK OF ME.  She marched over to my house with an armload of clothing and her camera and said “SHOOT ME”.

Because great minds think alike we embarked on a photo odessy that was aimed directly at getting relief through humor, make- up, and good girlfriend snarkiness and although both of us snickered our way through the various poses and and contrived sprawls-  something entirely different actually ended up happening.

Licking her self inflicted ( aren’t most?) wounds, I documented Robyn as we played with different ideas and looks only to end with astonishing results.

Now- of course we went through the photo’s and edited them and laughed and giggled and snorted, but the process itself was quite remarkable because it provided a catharsis that went far deeper than either of us imagined.   The entire process, as well as the outcome had truly empowered her and gave her back something she felt she had lost somewhere along the way: herself.

In the weeks that followed the results of the shoot had a lasting effect, a kind of “balancing” effect and for some reason gave Robyn permission to hit the “reset” button and take inventory of the things she wanted to accomplish.  Somehow seeing herself in the photos allowed her to step OUT of her head and see herself in a way she desperately did not even know she needed.

Since then, we’ve gone on to get similar if not more powerful results from the subsequent women we have photographed.  I’ll continue to post the results as well as a few interviews over the course of the next few weeks and you can see and hear for yourselves the kind of impact this project has made on each of these women.

After some discussion we decided to call this “process” something that we would continue to develop and we decided on the name The Revelation Project because in the process – something gets found, unveiled, or revealed that was not available BEFORE.  Hard to explain so again…. I’ll let them try to explain through the interviews we’ve collected ( to be posted soon!)

Here are the photos of Robyn taken that day. I’d love to hear your feedback to the project, the photos and the concept.